The Shulman Center

Terrence Shulman
JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAAC, CPC
Founder/Director of
The Shulman Center

Terry Shulman

April 2011 Monthly e-Newsletter
" Living Recovery in an Addictive World"
By Terrence Daryl Shulman

                                   HAPPY APRIL FOOLS DAY, EASTER & PASSOVER!
                                                           QUICK HITS!!!

Mr. Shulman was featured in "The Truth about Shoplifting"--which aired on Canadian TV in 2009--and was shown on March 4,6, 10 and 28 on CNBC TV. See http://www.theshulmancenter.com/videoarchive-shoplifting.html

Friday April 1st--Mr. Shulman is featured in a Detroit Free Press article on Charlie Sheen and celebrity addiction. See
http://www.freep.com/article/20110401/ENT05/104010413/No-one-knows-what-s-store-Charlie-Sheen-circus-rolls-into-Detroit?odyssey=tab|topnews|text|FRONTPAGE

Thursday April 7th--Mr. Shulman will be presenting on hoarding disorders at The National Association of Social Workers--Michigan Chapter Annual Conference.

Friday April 8th--HLN (Headline News Network) will feature an interview with Dr. Drew about women who shoplift.

Saturday April 16th--Mr. Shulman will be co-organizing and speaking on cross-addiction at a half-day conference on addiction/recovery in Ferndale, Michigan 8:30am -12:30pm. Contact him for further info at 248-358-8508. See link at:
http://www.theshulmancenter.com/images12/misc/recovery-conference3.pdf

Check out our 1-hour employee theft online course. Learn why people commit employee theft, how to deter it, and what to do when confronted with it. See http://theshulmancenter.360training.com

Check out our new online support group for compulsive shoppers/spenders and hoarders. Register by going to the link: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/shoppersandspenders/

Check our websites: www.celebrityshoplifters.com, www.celebrityshopaholics.com & www.hoardersanonymous.org

Please Note...

Look for Mr. Shulman's 4th book to be published this fall (yet untitled) on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding. The Shulman Center will conduct an all-day conference in Detroit Saturday October 1, 2011. The Third International Conference on Compulsive Theft, Spending and Hoarding will cover shoplifting addiction, kleptomania, employee theft, compulsive shopping/overspending, and hoarding/cluttering disorders. Please see information, registration, early bird discounts at: http://www.theshulmancenter.com/conference11.htm


Living Recovery in an Addictive World

I just returned from a long weekend trip to Orlando, Florida where my wife and I spent two full days at Universal Studios. I'd booked the trip in December as part of a holiday gift for my wife--who'd wanted to visit the new Harry Potter exhibits and rides there. Besides, I'd gotten a good deal on a hotel nearby the park (not such a great deal on airfare) and I figured my "inner child" could use a break from work and the weather. Boy, was I in for a rough ride!

It's not that I didn't have moments of awe and fun but between the 90 degree heat, the crowds and long lines, and the overpriced fast food and consumerist prodding at every turn, I found myself feeling very overwhelmed, even assaulted, and lost connection to the experience I had hoped for. I began feeling like I was being taken advantage of
($11.50 on a Butter Beer in a souvenir Harry Potter mug and it wasn't even real beer!) and instead of letting my guard down and playing, my guard kept going up. By the end of a long weekend, I was exhausted, had caught a cold (maybe the germs in the airplane or amusement park) and had to deal with Spirit Airlines and their extra fees for carry-on luggage. Ever feel like you need a vacation after your vacation? And on Monday I got a flat tire!

I've been to Orlando before and I'd forgotten that it kind of reminds me of Las Vegas--all glitter and glam on the outside but a veritable haven for addictive impulses--really just an amped up version of the "real world" I sometimes feel. The stimuli can be mind-boggling. Addicts be forewarned: there's booze, fattening food, sex (or at least the lure of it), gambling (or arcade games), shopping, spending and more spending, and so much more!

I don't mean to be a killjoy but how do we live recovery in an addictive world?

When I've traveled to Vegas four times in the last two years--for business and pleasure--I have to approach it like I'm going into a war zone of sorts. It's only slightly ironic that so many addiction/recovery conferences take place in Sin City. I'm not a gambler so avoiding gambling isn't so hard for me. I'm not a spendthrift so overspending isn't too hard either. I'm not much of a drinker or binge eater either. In my recovery from shoplifting and stealing, I've been fortunate to be on guard for any potential relapses in those arenas. I'm faithful to my wife and, yet, when I'm alone on vacation in such an environment, I can see how tempting it could be to stray. So, when I'm not working or at a conference there, I spend most of my time either at the hotel spa, walking outside to get some exercise and people and building watch, and then I usually retire early to my room with some carry-out dinner and the remote control.

It's said that if you're not planning for recovery you're planning for relapse. Research has shown that more and more people suffer from "cross-addictions" or "poly-addictions" which is when more than one addiction exists simultaneously or consequtively. Note the short list of addictions below. Which apply to you? Perhaps rank them in order of strength, recurrence or difficulty managing:

What's your "drug(s)" of choice?

ALCOHOL       FOOD            GAMBLING          EXERCISE                 TANNING    
MARIJUANA   CAFFEINE     SHOPPING          WORK                        PLASTIC SURGERY
COCAINE        NICTOTINE   SHOPLIFTING     CODEPENDENCY    TEXTING
HEROIN          SUGAR          RELIGION           TV/INTERNET            DAY TRADING
PILLS              SEX                HOARDING         VIDEOGAMES           LYING

Beginning Wednesdays May 4th on Canada's Vision TV, a series called "The Science of Sin" will examine the relationship between the "seven deadly sins" and addiction in the modern world. All show times are 10pm EST.

The tentative schedule is as follows:
 

May 4: Greed/Envy (covers overshopping/overspending--keeping up with the Joneses)
May 11: Gluttony/Sloth (covers overeating and laziness/TV/other passive addictions)
May 18: Lust/Wrath (covers sexual addictions and the increasing tread toward verbal and physical violence)
May 25: Pride/Deception (covers the chasing of fame and the building of false images behind secret lives)

In this addictive world, we either will choose CONTROL/FEAR  or  SURRENDER/TRUST.

And we may need all the help we can get to truly change our operating system. As Einstein once noted: "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it"

Lindsay Lohan Watch!

Lindsay Lohan appears to be heading the way of Winona Ryder--to trial!--for felony theft. After failing to reach a plea deal on March 23rd that would have required her to spend substantial time in jail (at least a couple of months), Ms. Lohan will be due back in court on April 22nd for a preliminary exam. Stay tuned!

See video: http://news.yahoo.com/video/entertainment-15749636/24642495;_ylt=AoGWpyib2gkavmEP6sjcCZWqR5Z4

Charlie Sheen Watch!

 The Charlie Sheen Circus is Coming to Town by BJ Hammerstein, Detroit Free Press Reporter

With the enigmatic and zigzagging former "Two and a Half Men" star opening his cross-country tour at the Fox Theatre on Saturday night, it will soon be revealed whether he's been concocting a stage-show hit or will deliver a devastating bomb.

And, in perfectly scripted Sheen style, virtually all of the behind-the-scenes preparations have been kept under wraps.

His spokesman speaks in short, one-line responses, never revealing his hand. The tour publicist deflects back to the spokesman. Detroit-connected concert insiders won't talk about it. National entertainment publications are in the same predicament: waiting.

E! chief news correspondent Ken Baker said Sheen's monthlong, 22-city tour is unprecedented.

"In terms of live entertainment stories, if this turns out to be a compelling and entertaining production, it will be considered one of the most brilliant moves ever," Baker told the Free Press. "If it doesn't work, it could go down in the record books as one of Hollywood's biggest disasters. Its unpredictability really makes it exciting."

Will Fox Theatre show spell end of Charlie Sheen's 2 1/2 minutes?

Charlie Sheen, the reigning king of controversy, is one day away from holding court at Detroit's Fox Theatre.

The embattled 45-year-old, whose rap sheet runs almost as long as his Hollywood credits, has been pop culture's biggest phenomenon for months after a string of off-the-cuff media appearances blitzed the public. Since he announced he's mobilizing a tour, however, Sheen has shut down the free-flowing info, leaving fans, ticket-holders and the news media puzzled about just what he's up to. It's made the Detroit show -- the first of the tour -- an even bigger source of speculation. News media from all over the country are expected to be in attendance.

What does the top-dollar sitcom actor, now known for insulting his bosses and splashing phrases of "winning" across T-shirts, have locked and loaded?

Only a few details are available about the cross-country jaunt he's calling the "My Violent Torpedo of Truth/Defeat is Not an Option" tour. Doors open at 7 p.m. The show will reportedly be 75 minutes. Two area radio stations were enlisted to help Sheen secure local talent -- a Detroiter will kick things off with "The Star-Spangled Banner," and a woman, also from Detroit, will join him as the night's featured intern. There's a musical director, according to UsMagazine.com . There will be some sort of multimedia element, according to E!. And Sheen's infamous two live-in "goddesses" could appear, TMZ.com reported.

ABC's Andrea Canning, who interviewed Sheen for a March edition of "20/20," told the Free Press that one reason Sheen's Detroit date is fascinating because the actor keeps you guessing.

"It couldn't have been more raw and real or surprising," Canning said of Sheen's media run that resulted in his termination from TV's top-rated comedy, "Two and a Half Men," and the departure of his longtime publicist, Stan Rosenfield. "What neither of us expected ... was the chord he struck with so many people across the country."

The ABC News special scored 9.3 million viewers, about twice the amount of the network's audience who tuned in to that time slot -- usually reserved for "Detroit 1-8-7."

To capitalize on the buzz following "20/20," Sheen launched his Twitter account and netted a record 1 million followers in 24 hours. He surprised just about everybody on March 10, when he revealed that he was taking a show on the road.

"After our interview, people realized how sort of wacky and funny and smart he really is," Canning said. "There was no stopping the train. What's incredible is how he recognized what was happening and parlayed it into all these other opportunities."

Terry Shulman, an addiction specialist based out of Franklin, said there's no denying Sheen has been intriguing to watch. But every story, eventually, has an end.

"It's really wild to see how articulate he is and then how off-the-wall he could be," Shulman said. "Though people will always have an appetite for escapist fodder, he'll likely be upstaged by world events or go the way of Glenn Beck and others like him. People will lose interest after a while."

Dr. Laura Berman, a sexual health expert and host of OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network's "In the Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman," said she understands why the general public has been enthralled by Sheen's audaciousness. But, although she has not treated Sheen herself, she said he needs therapy -- immediately -- or he could find himself trying to live through another devastating, downward spiral.

"The clinician in me is really freaked out," she said. "I'm worried what's going to happen if some intervention doesn't happen very soon."

WKQI-FM (95.5) "Mojo in the Morning" co-host Shannon Murphy said gossip lovers can't look away from big-name celebrity train wrecks. And although some are hoping for a complete breakdown on Saturday, Murphy added that this is show business. And Sheen's shocking shenanigans might not be an epic, career-ending collapse after all.

"I think he's very smart for capitalizing on his craziness," Murphy said. "He knows he can make money from all of this.

"Part of the fascination with the Detroit show is that we don't know what he's going to do on stage."

See link to article: http://www.freep.com/article/20110401/ENT05/104010413/No-one-knows-what-s-store-Charlie-Sheen-circus-rolls-into-Detroit?odyssey=tab|topnews|text|FRONTPAGE
 



25th Annual Debtors Anonymous Conference
To be held in Detroit, Michigan August 2011. Stay tuned for more details or check www.debtorsanonymous.org



Books of The Month:
 
Question Your Thinking, Change The World, by Byron Katie (Hay House, 2010). This little gem of a book based on Byron Katie's "The Work" of inquiry is chock-full of mind-expanding quotes on living in the moment and without our stories--no past, no future. Organized into various chapters such as on health, money, relationships/sex, and spirituality, this book is fun to just open up to a page and see what invitation you find to challenge your everyday beliefs. Here's a few sample excerpts: "It's not your job to love me--it's mine." "My love is my business; it has nothing to do with you. You love me and that isn't personal. You tell the story of I am this or I am that and you fall in love with your story. What do I have to do with it? I am here for your perception, as if I had a choice. I am your story, no more and no less. You have never met me. Nobody has ever met anyone." "You are the mother you've been waiting for. When you focus on your mother, you become motherless." "Here's how a child listens: you tell him something and he puts his own interpretation on what you said. That's what he hears. Nobody has ever heard you."

The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and The Search for Meaning, by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham (1993). This oldie but goodie is full of historical references and anecdotes about man's endless quest for perfection and the fruitlessness of this. Contrasting religion and spirituality, this book lauds the imperfect and how we find our souls in the mess of our lives. A great book for anyone in recovey, the authors bring humor and persuasiveness to the importance of shifting our obsession with the unattainable.


The Shulman Center Comes to You!
A reminder: The Shulman Center offers counseling services in the metro-Detroit area, by telephone and/or SKYPE. In certain circumstances--we may be able to come to you. Please feel free to contact us to explore what option works best for you!

Sacred Odyssey/Intimacy with Money Life Coaching
It is with great excitement and confidence that I share about the "Intimacy with Money" program offered by my long-time friend Tom Lietaert, life coach and gestalt counselor, of Boulder, Colorado. Tom works with clients in person and by phone. To learn more or to register, please go to: http://www.sacredodyssey.com


Compulsive Theft, Spending and Hoarding in The News! March/April 2011:

March--Mr. Shulman is being interviewed for an article in USA Today newspaper on compulsive shopping/spending.

March 4,6, 10 and 28-- "The Truth About Shoplifting"--which aired on Canadian Broadcast Corporation TV in 2009--was shown on U.S. cable network CNBC. Mr. Shulman was featured in this provocative documentary.

March 20--Mr. Shulman was featured as a guest expert on employee theft on MSNBC's "Your Business" program.

March--Mr. Shulman is assisting with a series on hoarding on Oprah's new OWN channel.

March--Mr. Shulman is working with producers of a proposed cable series on addictions, including shopping and shoplifting addictions.

April 1--Mr. Shulman was featured in a front-page article about Charlie Sheen and addicted celebrities in The Detroit Free Press.

April 7--Mr. Shulman will present on hoarding disorder at The National Association of Social Workers--Michigan Chapter Annual Conference in Dearborn, Michigan.

April 8--Mr. Shulman consulted on and may be a featured guest on HLN's (Headline News Network) Dr. Drew segment about women who shoplift.

April 16--Mr. Shulman will be co-organizing and co-presenting on cross-addiction at a half-day conference on addiction/recovery in Ferndale, Michigan 8:30am -12:30pm. Contact him for further info.


May 2011 and beyond...

May--Mr. Shulman will be featured in an article on hoarding and the family in Social Worker Today magazine.

May 4--Mr. Shulman will be featured as a guest expert on shopping addiction, envy and greed on Canada's Vision TV series "The Science of Sin."

June 2-5--Mr. Shulman will be presenting on compulsive theft and spending at the 2nd Annual West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders in Palm Springs, California. See www.wcsad.org

September 26-28--Mr. Shulman will be presenting on compulsive theft at the 24th Annual Foundations Recovery Network's "Power, Fame & Recovery" conference in Palm Beach, Florida.

October 1--Mr. Shulman will be presenting an all-day seminar on compulsive theft & spending & hoarding in the metro-Detroit area.

November 4--Mr. Shulman will present an all-day seminar on compulsive theft & spending & hoarding in the Chicago area through Proctor Hospital's/Illinois Institute for Addiction and Recovery's ongoing learning program.

Ongoing...
 
Mr. Shulman is assisting the Baton Rouge, Louisiana court system a court-ordered three hour, facilitated educational program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on material from his book "Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery" (2003).

Mr. Shulman created a 1-hour employee theft online course with 360 Training. Learn why people steal from their jobs, how to deter it, prevent it, and what to do when confronted with it. See or enroll in course at: http://theshulmancenter.360training.com 

Mr. Shulman is consulting on a major motion picture tentatively called "The Rush" in which the lead character is addicted to shoplifting and stealing.
 

Mr. Shulman created an online continuing education course on compulsive shopping and spending called "Bought Out and $pent!" based on his book and Power Point presentation. The course, offered through The American Psychotherapy Association, is available for purchase by APA members and non-members. CEUs are available. He's working on a therapist certification program in compulsive theft/spending for the APA. See: http://www.americanpsychotherapy.com/  

Mr. Shulman collaborated with the Kingman, AZ courts with a court-ordered home-study program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on material from his book 
"Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery" (2003)
.

Mr. Shulman is consulting with an author who's writing a novel about two kleptomaniacs who fall in love with each other.

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Contact The Shulman Center

Terrence Daryl Shulman, JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAAC, CPC
Founder/Director, The Shulman Center
P.O. Box 250008
Franklin, Michigan 48025

E-mail:
terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com

Call (248) 358-8508 for free consultation!

Related sites by Terrence Shulman:
www.theshulmancenter.com
www.kleptomaniacsanonymous.com
www.shoppingaddictions.org
www.shopliftingaddictions.com

www.terrenceshulman.com
www.shopaholicsanonymous.org
www.employeetheftsolutions.com
www.somethingfornothingbook.com
www.bitingthehandthatfeeds.com
www.boughtoutandspent.com
www.hoardingtherapy.com
www.hoardersanonymous.org

Books:

Something For Nothing
Biting The Hand That Feeds
Bought Out and $pent

Products for Purchase--ON SALE through 2011!

Mr. Shulman's three books "Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction & Recovery"
"Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic... New Perspectives, New Solutions,"
and "Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pending"
are available for $25.00 each (includes shipping/handling).

Click here to purchase

E-mail Mr. Shulman:
terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com

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Call  (248) 358-8508
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