The Shulman Center

Terrence Shulman
JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAADC, CPC
Founder/Director of
The Shulman Center

Terry Shulman

December 2011 Monthly e-Newsletter
"Staying Sane During the Holidays"
By Terrence Daryl Shulman

 

Wishing You Happy and Safe Holidays from The Shulman Center!

November 4--Mr. Shulman presented a day-long seminar on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding in Chicago through the llinois Institute for Addiction/Recovery. 

November 21-26--Mr. Shulman was in New York City working on several possible media appearances on the holiday season and how it impacts compulsive stealing, spending and hoarding.

December 1--Mr. Shulman presents on compulsive theft, spending & hoarding at metro-Detroit Rotary Club. 

December 2--Mr. Shulman presents a free community talk on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding at Motor City Java House in Redford, Michigan. 

March 5, 2012--Mr. Shulman to present on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding at the metro-Detroit 4th Annual Problem Gambling Symposium.

MR. SHULMAN OFFERS SPECIAL DISCOUNTED "SAFE HOLIDAYS" COUNSELING TUNE-UPS AND GROUP PHONE THERAPY SESSIONS! CONTACT HIM NOW BY E-MAIL/PHONE BEFORE THESE FILL!

IF YOU ARE A THERAPIST, PLEASE CONTACT MR. SHULMAN TO FIND OUT ABOUT OUR NEW TRAINING & CERTIFICATION PROGRAM IN COMPULSIVE THEFT, SPENDING and/or HOARDING! 

MR. SHULMAN'S BOOKS "Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic" and "Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping & $pending" are now available as e-books on Amazon! Mr. Shulman's books "Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery" and "Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls" to be released as e-books in early 2012.


Check out our new online support group for compulsive shoppers/spenders and hoarders. To register, go to www.yahoogroups.com/shoppersandspenders/

Check out our 1-hour employee theft online course. Learn why people commit employee theft, how to deter it, and how to confront it. See http://theshulmancenter.c360training.com

New sites in progress! www.celebrityshoplifters.com and www.celebrityshopaholics.com

Quote of The Month: "Don't go to the hardware store for milk!" --Adult Children of Alcoholics

A NEW YORK STATE OF MIND?

My wife and I just returned from spending six days in New York City during the Thanksgiving week and weekend. I was looking forward to walking around the city, seeing a few friends, the parade, and taking in a few plays. But I was also feeling apprehensive about the crowds and, especially, the bombardment of advertising and consumerist luring, culminating with Black Friday, in the shopping mecca of the world.

We arrived on Monday and checked into our hotel. Within an hour, we hit the streets--it was a warm and sunny day and we wanted to make the most of it. We met with a producer for ABC's 20/20 program who is heading up a possible hour-long segment about shoplifting and shoplifting addiction. It was a good meeting and we hope something will come of it. Afterwards, my wife and I took the train down to the World Trade Center site. It had been a few years since I last visited what was still a hole in the ground. I was amazed, inspired by the progress. The several buildings--including The Freedom Tower--appeared about half-finished. It was a reminder that what is destroyed can be rebuilt, even if it takes a long, long time. We also visited Zucotti Park--site of the original Occupy Wall Street protests which had been cleared out just the week before. The Park was still open and was smaller than I had imagined. Several pockets of protesters roamed about. We met Captain Lewis, a retired Philadelphia policeman, who I'd seen on TV a few days earlier; he'd been arrested and released and was still there fighting the good fight for the 99%. 

I had to pause and consider the strange juxtaposition between the rebuilding of the Trade Center site and the fledgling Occupy movement just blocks away. I felt torn, in some way, honoring our American perseverance in rebuilding such grand monuments while failing to do much to help the millions who are falling further into poverty and hopelessness, further and further from realizing "The American Dream." In my own life, I was struggling between feeling grateful for what I had--a home, a good wife, a job I created and love, my health, and my financial ability to vacation in New York. But I also was feeling distant from my family lately and, as often happens when I visit big cities, that strange confusion when I see Gucci and homelessness on the same block. 

Tuesday it rained all day and we laid low in the hotel, reading and resting. We did walk down to Barney's, under our umbrella, to see Lady Gaga's "workshop" on the 5th floor. I'm a Gaga fan and had to admire the creativity of the window displays and hundreds of Gaga-themed items for sale, overpriced though part of the proceeds marked for charity. I love Gaga's message about self-acceptance and empowerment yet, there's the confusion again about her marketing of herself. But, then again, I market myself, too. And our "success" stories can be quite inspiring. My wife and I watched the "Dancing with The Stars" finale and were thrilled when J.R. Martinez, the young wounded and facially disfigured Iraq War veteran won the Mirror Ball trophy. Martinez is a testament to perseverance and an amazing example of someone who appears to have survived the physical and emotional horrors of war with his spirit intact. Suddenly, my little problems and complaints seemed silly. 

The day before Thanksgiving, I met a client who happened to be visiting the city like me. Since most of my counseling is by telephone, it's always nice to meet face-to-face. My wife and I walked around more, the pre-Thanksgiving buzz noticeably amped up with the crowds increasing. We saw a matinee "Billy Elliot"--which was great--and then I walked a few blocks to the local Shoplifters Anonymous meeting which has been meeting for 15 years. There were 8 people at the meeting, including a young woman, recently arrested, who was attending for her first time. She spoke so raw and eloquently of her addiction to shoplifting. After the meeting, I gave her a free, signed copy of my book "Something for Nothing." After the meeting, Leo (the group's founder/leader) and I went out for a bite and caught up with things for a couple of hours. He noted how it's amazing that, after 15 years, there's only one, sparsely attended support group in NYC for recovering shoplifters.

Thanksgiving was pretty mellow. My wife and I walked a few blocks down a side street to watch part of the parade for a half hour. The sun had returned and we also walked around the city a bit more. I partook of my annual early afternoon ritual turkey--watching the Detroit Lions lose. I kept thinking about the meeting the night before--the agony of that new woman seared me--and was grateful for my recovery from shoplifting and stealing. I was also missing my family and wondered if my presence was missed. Then, my wife and I had a light dinner at the hotel and curled up to watch "A Very Gaga Christmas" on TV and drifted off to sleep.

Black Friday. We had plans to see "Book of Mormon" at 2pm and "Hugh Jackman: Back on Broadway" at 8. I usually don't go into stores on Black Friday--or during the holidays in general--but my wife and I did go into a few together. They were crowded but not as bad as I thought. Still, I was thankful I wasn't an active shopaholic: there were so many stores and so many options to buy, buy, buy! By the end of the evening, the headline news noted that shoppers spent more than they had last year (the final tally was a record $52 billion, up 6% from last year). There were also stories of shoppers fighting, shooting, and pepper spraying their way through the frenzy. Some may recall a few years ago when a Wal-Mart employee was trampled to death upon opening up the doors to Black Friday shoppers.

Our last day, Saturday, we headed uptown and visited my friend and colleague Dr. April Benson, the noted pioneer in the field of shopping addiction research and treatment. We enjoyed an afternoon walk in the sun and lunch with her and her husband. We caught up and heard about their recent trip to the country Bhutan which, among other things, is known for its awareness and value of happiness in its culture. According to some recent studies, Bhutan has one of the highest "happiness quotients" in the world. Something tells me their idea of Thanksgiving has little to do with shopping. 

When we arrived home late Saturday night, it was good to be back in our modest condo, in our modest suburban Detroit city. New York is a nice place to visit but I was worn out after all the walking, the stimuli, the energy. I am grateful to have visited and i'm grateful to be home. Simple is good.

 

Don't let Cyber Monday get the better of you!

FREE WEBINAR ON COMPULSIVE SHOPPING THURSDAY DECEMBER 6th at 9pm EST

Please join Dr. April Lane Benson and Jill Chivers, both recovering shopaholics, as they offer a free webinar on understanding and overcoming over-shopping--with a special emphasis on clothes shopping--on Thursday December 6th at 9pm EST. For more information and to register for this timely event, see: 
http://www.shopaholicnomore.com/stopping-overshopping-for-clothing/

START YOUR NEW YEAR NOW with MONEY/LIFE COACHING

If you or someone you know is having ongoing issues with money, debt, or under-earning, consider contacting Tom Lietaert of Sacred Odyssey. I've known Tom since 1996 and he's a certified professional life coach with a special expertise in money coaching. For more information, please see: http://sacredodyssey.com/

 

COMPULSIVE THEFT, SPENDING and HOARDING on the MOVE and in the NEWS!

November 4--Mr. Shulman presented a day-long seminar on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding in Chicago through the llinois Institute for Addiction/Recovery. 

November 21-26--Mr. Shulman was in New York City working on several possible media appearances on the holiday season and how it impacts compulsive stealing, spending and hoarding.

December 1--Mr. Shulman presents on compulsive theft, spending & hoarding at metro-Detroit Rotary Club. 

December 2--Mr. Shulman presents a free community talk on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding at Motor City Java House in Redford, Michigan. 

March 5, 2012--Mr. Shulman to present on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding at the metro-Detroit 4th Annual Problem Gambling Symposium.

June, 2012--Mr. Shulman to present at the Pretrial Intervention Professionals Symposium in New Orleans, LA.

 

Ongoing...

Mr. Shulman is assisting the Baton Rouge, Louisiana court system a court-ordered three hour, facilitated educational program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on material from his book "Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery" (2003).

Mr. Shulman created a 1-hour employee theft online course with 360 Training. Learn why people steal from their jobs, how to deter it, prevent it, and what to do when confronted with it. See or enroll in course at: http://theshulmancenter.360training.com

Mr. Shulman is consulting on a major motion picture tentatively called "The Rush" in which the lead character is addicted to shoplifting and stealing.

Mr. Shulman created an online continuing education course on compulsive shopping and spending called "Bought Out and $pent!" based on his book and Power Point presentation. The course, offered through The American Psychotherapy Association, is available for purchase by APA members and non-members. CEUs are available. He's working on a therapist certification program in compulsive theft/spending. See: http://www.americanpsychotherapy.com/



 

Contact: The Shulman Center

Terrence Daryl Shulman, JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAADC, CPC
Founder/Director, The Shulman Center

P.O. Box 250008
Franklin, Michigan 48025

E-mail: terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com

Call (248) 358-8508 for free consultation!

Related sites by Terrence Shulman:

www.theshulmancenter.com
www.kleptomaniacsanonymous.com
www.shoppingaddictions.org
www.shopliftingaddictions.com
www.terrenceshulman.com
www.shopaholicsanonymous.org
www.employeetheftsolutions.com
www.somethingfornothingbook.com

www.bitingthehandthatfeeds.com
www.boughtoutandspent.com
www.hoardingtherapy.com
www.hoardersanonymous.org


Mr. Shulman's four Books:
Something For Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery

Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic

Bought Out and $pent!
 Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pending
Cluttered Lives: Empyt Souls:
 Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding



All book are available for $25.00 each (includes shipping/handling).

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E-mail Mr. Shulman:
terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com or call 248-358-8508