The Shulman Center

Terrence Shulman
JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAADC, CPC
Founder/Director of
The Shulman Center

Terry Shulman

October 2011 Monthly e-Newsletter
"Falling Up"
By Terrence Daryl Shulman

                        Happy Autumn/Jewish New Year!

September 28--Mr. Shulman interviewd and his new book "Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls" reviewed in Detroit Metro Times. See http://metrotimes.com/arts/cluttered-lives-empty-souls-compulsive-stealing-spending-hoarding-1.1210358

October 1--Mr. Shulman is featured in Canada's Readers Digest October 2011 issue in "An Ordinary Thief" article. See: http://www.readersdigest.ca/magazine/whats-online-readers-digest-october-2011-issue


October 21
--
Mr. Shulman to present online seminar on compulsive theft, spending & hoarding 1-4 pm EST through Recovery Today Magazine. See www.recoverytoday.net for more info and to register.

October 24--Mr. Shulman to be interviewed from 3-4pm EST on Internet "One Hour at a Time" on Voice America Health/Wellness Channel. See www.voiceamerica.com/show/one-hour-at-a-time.

October 25
--Mr. Shulman's interview on Michigan Entrepreneur network airs on metroDetroit TV.

October 25--Mr. Shulman to present on compulsive shopping/spending and hoarding disorder from 7-9:30pm EST at The Birmingham (Michigan) Community House. See https://tchweb.communityhouse.com/wconnect/CourseStatus.awp?~~11FHW44

November 4--Mr. Shulman to preent day-long seminr on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding in Chicago, IL through the Illinois Institute for Addiction Recovery. See http://www.addictionrecov.org/Registration%20PDFs/2011/Shopping_Training_Nov_2011.pdf

MR. SHULMAN'S NEW BOOK AVAILABLE NOW!

Mr. Shulman's 4th book Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls: Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding is now available for purchase at www.clutteredlives.com or www.amazon.com or by contacting Mr. Shulman directly.

THE THIRD INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE on COMPULSIVE THEFT, SPENDING & HOARDING

Thanks to the 40 people who recently attended our all day conference on Saturday October 1st in Detroit. The majority of attendees were counselors and therapists from across Michigan--and one from Windsor, Ontario. We also had several criminal justice professionals and a hand-ful of recovering persons present. There was great interest in all of our topics but especially hoarding. Between 8:30am and 4:30pm we created a very safe environment which allowed everyone to ask questions, share about their own experiences, and learn more about themselves, their loved ones and the how to best help clients who suffer from compulsive stealing, spending and hoarding. Our feedback about the conference was quite positive. Many therapists requested a future conference which goes into more depth about actual treatment strategies. We at The Shulman Center hope to oblige.

POWER, FAME and RECOVERY CONFERENCE

I recently attended the Foundation Recovery Network's "Power, Fame and Recovery" conference in Palm Beach, Florida in late September. There were over 500 attendees, mostly therapists, from across the U.S. (and a few other countries) and some of the more well-known speakers included John Bradshaw and Patrick Carnes. I met a lot of wonderful therapists, many who were very interested in the work we do at The Shulman Center. I learned a lot about the unique challenges working with clients who are particularly wealthy, famous and/or powerful. There was also discussion about how therapists, too, need to check their own egos constantly--especially those of us who are in the public eye, too.

BOUGHT OUT and $PENT! My Recent Blog on www.impulsesave.com

We all have money issues. I know I do. We're usually feeling like we want or need more of it. We're trying to earn more, spend less, save or invest more; yet, we also want more, need more, feel we deserve more, and dread the feeling of losing or just maintaining our current lifestyle.

You've probably noticed a growing trend over the last decade or so: books, articles, television and radio shows, calls near and far are sounding the alarm about our individual problems with debt and spending. While more than ever magazines and TV shows mock the importance of this issue creating colloquialisms we know today like retail therapy.

In 2006, a landmark Stanford University study concluded that something else better described the phenomenon growing among millions of people: they called it "compulsive buying disorder." While the term is still controversial—there's a tendency to call it "poor money management"— more treatment is necessary than freezing a credit card or slavishly adhering to a financial advisor's council.

Consider the following statistics:
*17 Million Americans (roughly 6% of the population) are compulsive buyers (Stanford University Study, 2006)
*Nearly half of all compulsive buyers are men (Stanford University Study, 2006)
*Arguments over money and spending are the primary reason for couples' conflict or divorce (Psychology Today)
*The average credit card debt per American citizen is nearly $10,000—mostly from unnecessary purchases (Time and Money magazines)

While many believe that debt is still the most dangerous manifestation of financial imbalance, compulsive shopping is harder to detect and therefore harder to treat. And there are many things lost to compulsive shopping, costs we don't notice such as loss of time, loss of interest in relationships, avoidance of emotions and/or obligations.

In fact, there are many reasons why people overshop/overspend:
Emotional deprivation in childhood
Inability to tolerate negative feelings, pain, loneliness, depression, fear, or anger
Need to fill an inner void,  empty and longing inside
Excitement or thrill-seeking
Approval seeking
Perfectionism Need to gain control
Manic episodes, ADHD, or impulsivity
Impulsivity is an especially big problem for many overshoppers. Even for the strong-willed, a relapse can be a mouse-click away. Fortunately on this front, new technologies have been developed which can help bolster a shopper's resolve AND empower them with better options right at the point of sale.

Our relationship to money and to possessions is a huge source of wounding and pain in my clients—and most people in general. Therefore, redefining this relationship brings healing and peace. ImpulseSave, is doing just that by empowering shoppers with a better option at every point of sale, allowing them to again have control. Through their mobile and web applications that both remind you of your higher values, right when you need that reminder most, and challenge you to save not spend.

Then, when you've decide to save, the money you would have spent is deposited into your savings account towards benchmarks you've set.  ImpulseSave then shows you the value of those savings and encourages and incents you to do it again.  You can even choose to share your success with friends and family.

As someone who understands these issues deeply, I encourage you to take time exploring your financial situation. While overshopping and compulsive spending are serious issues, hope is not lost! Read about me, my story, and other ways to combat overshopping at: 
http://blog.impulsesave.com/what_we_think/2011/9/8/bought-out-and-pent-compulsive-hopping-and-pending-1.html

Check out our new online support group for compulsive shoppers/spenders and hoarders. Register at: www.yahoogroups.com/shoppersandspenders/

Check out our 1-hour employee theft online course. Learn why people commit employee theft, how to deter it, and how to confront it. See http://theshulmancenter.c360training.com

New sites in progress! www.celebrityshoplifters.com and www.celebrityshopaholics.com

COMPULSIVE THEFT, SPENDING and HOARDING on the MOVE and in the NEWS!

September /October 2011... 

September--Mr. Shulman is featured in Allure Magazine (p. 114) on shoplifting addiction.

September 8--Mr. Shulman presented a 90-minute interactive lecture on shopping and hoarding disorders from at Inner Wisdom Healing Center in Southfield, Michigan.

September 11--Mr. Shulman was interviewed about compulsive theft, spending and hoarding on metro-Detroit cable station WADL's "Schwartz's Law" program. 

September 12-Mr. Shulman was interviewed on shopping addiction via Skype for The Daily. 

September 15--Mr. Shulman presented a free 90-minute interactive lecture on hoarding disorder from 7-8:30pm at The Franklin (Michigan) Public Library.

September 26-28--Mr. Shulman attended The 24th Annual Foundations Recovery Network's "Power, Fame & Recovery" conference in Palm Beach, Florida.

October--Mr. Shulman is featured in Reader's Digest Magazine (Canada) on shoplifting addiction.

October 1--Mr. Shulman presented an all-day conference at Third International Conference on Compulsive Theft, Spending & Hoarding, Detroit, MI.

October 21--Mr. Shulman to present 3-hour webinar on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding from 1-4pm EST at
www.recoverytoday.net

October 24--Mr. Shulman to be interviewed on the internet from 3-4pm EST on "One Hour at a Time" radio show on the Voice America Health and Wellness Channel. See
www.voiceamerica.com.

October 25--Mr. Shulman speaks on compulsive shopping/hoarding at Birmingham (MI) Community House.

 

November 2011 and beyond ...

November 4--Mr. Shulman to present day-long seminar on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding in Chicago, IL through Proctor Hospital/Illinois Institute for Addiction & Recovery. See www.iiar.org

December 1--Mr. Shulman speaks on compulsive theft/spending/hoarding at Detroit area Rotary Club. 


Ongoing...

Mr. Shulman is assisting the Baton Rouge, Louisiana court system a court-ordered three hour, facilitated educational program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on material from his book "Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery" (2003).

Mr. Shulman created a 1-hour employee theft online course with 360 Training. Learn why people steal from their jobs, how to deter it, prevent it, and what to do when confronted with it. See or enroll in course at: http://theshulmancenter.360training.com

Mr. Shulman is consulting on a major motion picture tentatively called "The Rush" in which the lead character is addicted to shoplifting and stealing.

Mr. Shulman created an online continuing education course on compulsive shopping and spending called "Bought Out and $pent!" based on his book and Power Point presentation. The course, offered through The American Psychotherapy Association, is available for purchase by APA members and non-members. CEUs are available. He's working on a therapist certification program in compulsive theft/spending. See: http://www.americanpsychotherapy.com/

Mr. Shulman collaborated with the Kingman, AZ courts with a court-ordered home-study program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on his book Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery.

Mr. Shulman is consulting with an author who's writing a book about two kleptomaniacs who fall in love. 
 

  Contact: The Shulman Center

Terrence Daryl Shulman, JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAADC, CPC
Founder/Director, The Shulman Center

P.O. Box 250008

Franklin, Michigan 48025

E-mail: terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com

Call (248) 358-8508 for free consultation!

Related sites by Terrence Shulman:

www.theshulmancenter.com

www.kleptomaniacsanonymous.com

www.shoppingaddictions.org

www.shopliftingaddictions.com

www.terrenceshulman.com

www.shopaholicsanonymous.org

www.employeetheftsolutions.com
www.somethingfornothingbook.com

www.bitingthehandthatfeeds.com

www.boughtoutandspent.com

www.hoardingtherapy.com
www.hoardersanonymous.org


Mr. Shulman's four Books:

Something For Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery

Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic

Bought Out and $pent!
 Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pending
Cluttered Lives: Empyt Souls:
 Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding



All book are available for $25.00 each (includes shipping/handling).

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E-mail Mr. Shulman:

terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com or call 248-358-8508