HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!April
1--Mr. Shulman was featured in a Detroit Free Press article on
Charlie Sheen and celebrity addiction See: http://www.freep.com/article/20110401/ENT05/104010413/No-one-knows-what-s-store-Charlie-Sheen-circus-rolls-into-Detroit?odyssey=tab|topnews|text|FRONTPAGE
and Recent Events!!!
7--Mr. Shulman presented on hoarding disorder at National Association of
Social Workers Michigan Chapter Annual Conference. See: http://www.theshulmancenter.com/videoarchive-hoarding.html
April 16--Mr. Shulman co-organized and co-presented at
Michigan cross-addictions conference in Ferndale, MI. See: http://www.theshulmancenter.com/Living_Recovery_in_an_Addictive_World-yt.html
May 1--Mr. Shulman will be featured in an article on hoarding disorder
and the family in the May/June issue of Social Work Today magazine. See www.socialworktoday.com
May 4--Mr. Shulman will be a guest expert on Canada's Vision TV on
"The Science of Sin" on greed/envy and shopping addiction on
May 4--See http://www.visiontv.ca/Programs/documentaries_sciencesin.html
June 3--Lindsay Lohan due back in court in California for trial
on misdemeanor larceny charge.
June 2-5--Mr. Shulman will be presenting on compulsive theft and spending
at the 2nd Annual West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders in Palm
Springs, California. See www.wcsad.com
Name That Book!
Mr. Shulman's 4th book to be published this fall (yet untitled) on
compulsive theft, spending and hoarding. Please e-mail Mr. Shulman no
later than May 28, 2011 if you have a suggested title for this book
(please suggest a catchy main title and an under-title such as
"Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery." If
we choose your title, we will mail you a free, signed copy of the book
when it is published!
The Shulman Center will
conduct an all-day conference in Detroit Saturday October 1, 2011. The
Third International Conference on Compulsive Theft, Spending and Hoarding
will cover shoplifting addiction, kleptomania, employee
theft, compulsive shopping/overspending, and hoarding/cluttering
disorders. Please see information, registration, early bird discounts at: http://www.theshulmancenter.com/conference11.htm
out our new online support group for compulsive shoppers/spenders
and hoarders. Register by going to the link: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/shoppersandspenders/
Check out our
1-hour employee theft online course. Learn why people commit employee
theft, how to deter it, and what to do when confronted with it. See http://theshulmancenter.360training.com
sites in progress! www.celebrityshoplifters.com and www.celebrityshopaholics.com
Living Recovery in an Addictive World
Mini-Conference: A Report
On April 16th, I co-organized and
co-presented at a half-day mini-conference in Ferndale, Michigan
entitled: "Living Recovery in an Addictive World." We had
approximately 50 attendees from all backgrounds. I presented on comulsive
shoplifting, employee theft, shopping/spending, and hoarding. My collegue
and friend, Debra Waldman Meese presented on hoarding; my colleague and
friend Kevin Roberts presented on videogam and Internet addiction (See www.thecyberjunkie.com);
and my colleague Kenneth Adams presented on sexual addiction and the
relationship between therapy and 12 step groups. (See www.sexualhealth-addiction.com).
The conference was
interactive and received very positive feedback. It's our hope to conduct
similar half-day conferences on personal growth and recovery-related
themes at least twice per year. Stay tuned!To watch Mr. Shulman's
30-minute presentation, See: http://www.theshulmancenter.com/Living_Recovery_in_an_Addictive_World-yt.html
The End of An Era?
Beginning in the near future, the website www.shopliftersanonymous.com which was under the auspices of Mr. Shulman and The Shulman Center as the
primary information site for C.A.S.A. (Cleptomaniacs And Shoplifters
Anonymous) will no longer take you to the shared site with the N.A.S.P. (National
Association for Shoplifting Prevention) at http://www.shopliftingprevention.org/saredirect2/ Since November
2009, The Shulman Center and C.A.S.A. has been using the
websites www.kleptomaniacsanonymous.com and www.kleptomaniacsanonymous.org for C.A.S.A. We encourage any new support group chapters not to use
S.A. or Shoplifters Anonymous as its name but, rather, C.A.S.A. or
Lindsay Lohan Case Set for Trial June 3
been a rough couple of days for Lindsay Lohan. The
actress returned to Lynwood Jail on Friday after a topsy-turvy day in
court, and she is frustrated with the status of her jewelry theft case.
is fine," says producer Nathan Folks, who is a close friend of
Lohan, 24. "Obviously, she is upset about [being sentenced to four
months in jail]."
Friday, a judge found Lohan, who is accused of stealing is a $2,500
necklace, in violation of probation and sentenced her to the jail time
and a hefty 480 hours of community service, which Folks admits was a
she was allowed to post bail and released within hours of getting booked.
Lohan remains free pending an appeal of the sentence, which legal experts
say she has slim chance of winning.
is angry because she has been working so hard on turning her life
around," says Folks, who insists Lohan is clean and sober. "She
didn't do what they said she did. She didn't steal that necklace."
Still, Lohan is resigned to accept whatever decision comes down from the
court when her trial begins June 3.
is ready to do her time. She wants to go to A.A. and N.A. and to serve
her [more than] 400 hours [of community service]," Folks says.
"She has already been doing lots of charity work."
See article at: http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20484424,00.html
'Rush' of Theft May Have Motivated Pitcher Accused of
Shoplifting, Doctors Say
24, 2011 by The Cincinnati Enquirer
clinical term for such a behavioral problem is kleptomania. Such people
might steal for "a brief thrill — almost a euphoria, almost like
what one gets from taking a drug," says Dr. Tracey Skale, chief
medical officer for Greater Cincinnati Behavioral Health Services in
and other doctors who deal with impulse-control disorders say they are
not talking specifically about Leake or any other accused celebrities,
such as Lindsay Lohan, Winona Ryder and Britney Spears.
a compulsive behavior, and they can't stop themselves," Skale said.
"Many gamblers will describe the same kind of rush as people who
told me about their shoplifting."
police took Leake, 23, into custody from the Macy's store, he had $250 in
cash and three credits cards, according to Hamilton County court records.
Leake was booked and released and appeared in uniform in the dugout at
the Reds game Monday night. He started against the Arizona Diamondbacks
said she recently counseled a grandmother who described the growing
anxiety and urge to take something while shopping, "even when she
had money in her pocket," she said.
theft "relieves the tension, and provides gratification," said
Dr. Stephen Strakowski, chairman of the University of Cincinnati's
psychiatry and behavioral neuroscience department.
the stolen clothing or merchandise is thrown away or donated to charity,
the act itself that's important (to the person), not the item,"
article at: http://www.newsleader.com/article/20110424/LIFESTYLE/104240311
Luring Shoppers in a Tough Economy
USA Today Reporters 4/1/11
tough economic times, consumers are consistently looking for a deal and
retailers are trying various ways to offer them up. It's
been an effective marketing strategy for as long as there have been
retailers. But today, analysts say, that theory is driving a sales-crazy
marketplace in which retailers, desperate to survive tough times, are
finding increasingly creative ways to lure consumers who consider 20% off
as the new full price.
analysts such as Michael Dart say retailers are becoming more sophisticated
at tapping into the psychology of why people buy at the prices they do.
After watching daily deal websites — including Groupon, LivingSocial,
Gilt and Rue La La — convince online customers that they need to buy
immediately, mainstream retailers are embracing one-day-only sales as if
their survival depended upon it. Some are trying "flash" sales,
which can inspire a sense of urgency among buyers by offering deep
discounts on certain items foronly a few hours.
Elston of the marketing and research company Integer Group, says
"buy one, get one free" offers and flash sales are examples of
"psychological pricing." These strategies play on the
"cognitive shortcuts" our brains take to process the deluge of
information we're exposed to every day, he says.
science behind the sales...
timed sale "gives a sense of exclusivity and urgency to get the
deal, or otherwise you'll miss out," Elston says. Eventually, such
discounting strategies train consumers to realize, for example, that if
they don't show up the minute a store opens at 7 a.m., they won't get
what they want.
recession may not have had the effect debt counselors would hope on many
consumers' buying behavior. Credit card debt is starting to trend back
up, according to a new report by credit card search company CardHub.com.
There was net increase of $8.1 billion in credit card debt last year,
compared with a net decrease of $10 billion in 2009. In the fourth
quarter of 2010, credit card debt increased by $34.8 billion after card
companies wrote off their uncollectible debt. That was 154% more debt
than in the same quarter of 2009.
and addictions counselor Terrence Shulman says the recession created what
he calls "bargain shopaholics," who think it's OK to spend
money if you're "saving" while doing so. That made how little
you spent more important than what you got, says Shulman, founder of
ShopaholicsAnonymous.org. "To be frugal was now hip." When your
weakness is online shopping and a deal lands in your inbox, Shulman says,
that should be viewed as "an intrusion."
live in a society where we're so quick to respond to an e-mail, a text
message or a page," he says. "The bargain shopper in us really
goes crazy" for online promotions. April Lane Benson, a psychologist
and author of To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop,
agrees: "Daily deals trigger some people to buy compulsively when
they think they're getting a bargain, especially if it's time-limited."
like the psychology that Wal-Mart uses to make people believe they are
going to get the very best deal and don't need to price shop,"
Sterneckert says. While retailers can't seem to resist deals, many
shoppers insist they're resisting the temptation to buy things they don't
need. Gillian Murrell of Charlotte says she subscribes to Gilt to "track
styles and see how low the prices will go, so that I can compare how much
full-price retailers charge."
says that since the economic downturn began in 2008, her clients who shop
too much have fallen into three categories: online shoppers happy everyone
has to cut back; those who continue to spend and feel guilty about it;
and those who have become bargain hunters.
waters for some...
Some people allow the e-mail
alerts for daily deals to take over their lives, Benson says. One of her
clients — she wouldn't identify her because of patient confidentiality
requirements — was a compulsive online shopper. The client was barraged
with e-mails about sales and routinely received calls from retail
salespeople "who knew how vulnerable she was and how difficult it
was for her to pass up a new handbag," Benson says. It turned out
the newly divorced woman suffered from insomnia, so she was passing time
in the middle of the night shopping online. To address the problem,
Benson persuaded the woman to enroll in an online support group for
overindulgent shoppers, so she could chat instead of shop; remove all of
her bargain-alert notifications; and unsubscribe from her online
retailers. The client also practiced ways to fend off aggressive store
clerks who called or targeted her in stores.
of article at: http://www.usatoday.com/money/industries/retail/2011-03-31-daily-deals_N.htm
When All Feel Cheated, Who'll Play Fair?
Brian Dickerson, Detroit Free Press, Apr. 28, 2011
scientists who study dishonesty have observed that people who cheat often
harbor a deep-seated conviction that they themselves have been cheated.
Anjan Chatterjee, a neurologist at the University of Pennsylvania who has
conducted research into the use of prescription drugs to boost
intellectual performance, says cheating is easier to justify "when
you cast yourself as the victim of some kind of unfairness.
it becomes a matter of evening the score," he explained in the New
York Times last week. "You're not cheating; you're restoring
this is not so surprising. We human beings have always been better at
rationalizing bad behaviors than we are at cultivating good ones.
the news that cheaters share a common sense of grievance is disconcerting
in an era when such grievance is epidemic.
there anyone in the America of 2011 who doesn't feel cheated? Who among us
doesn't secretly suspect, no matter how comfortable our own
circumstances, that somewhere, somehow, persons less deserving than
ourselves are getting more, paying less, or generally reaping rewards
disproportionate to their own merit?
you are and whatever you do in America, there are media working round the
clock to convince you that right here, right now, someone is cheating you
out of what is justly yours. If you're a union member, it's the
corporations who are screwing you; if you're a taxpayer, it's the public
those of you lucky enough to be members of the ruling class are alerted
daily to the myriad ways in which trial lawyers and tax collectors are
rigging the game against you.
point is not to dismiss the many examples of injustice I've witnessed,
nor to promote the Pollyannaish delusion that "it all comes out in
the wash." The middle class really is shrinking. An ever-smaller share of
the population really is
commandeering an ever-larger share of the money. And the growing numbers
getting the short end of the social compact have every reason to be angry.
it's not the merits of anyone's particular claim of injustice that
concerns me here so much as the way this increasingly ubiquitous
perception of unfairness is distorting our attitude toward one another...
See rest of article at:
Shattered Faith: What Fall of Greg Mortenson
Tells Us about America's Longing for Heroes
By Hamton Sides,
Newsweek Magazine 4/24/11
Greg Mortensen with school children in Afghanistan.
I remember my first
Mortenson Moment. It was a few years ago, in an old auditorium in Santa
Fe, N.M., and I sat waiting with my wife and son in a large murmuring
crowd. Greg Mortenson, arriving late, flashed a shy smile and a namaste sign as he
took the stage. He had a bashful cluelessness that somehow made him all
the more endearing. Soon he launched into The Story: How in 1993, he
stumbled into the tiny Pakistani village of Korphe after a failed attempt
on K2. How the kind villagers nursed him back to health with many cups of
tea. How as payment for their generosity, he returned to build a school.
How that one school became hundreds of schools across Pakistan and
Afghanistan. And how, tonight, we could help him build more.
I wish I could say
now that I was skeptical of Mortenson's performance, but I wasn't. Like
everyone else, I wrote a check and bought a book and stood in line. I,
This past week, thanks
to a 60 Minutes exposé
followed by an extended piece of electronic journalism by bestselling
author Jon Krakauer, we learned that Mortenson may very well be a
charlatan. That significant passages of The Story appear to be fictions
(including the whole genesis tale about his sentimental recovery in
Korphe). That the "Taliban abductors" so harrowingly described
in Three Cups of Tea
were supposedly friendly villagers protecting him as a guest of honor.
That his charity, the Bozeman, Mont.--based Central Asia Institute, is
apparently hopelessly mismanaged. That many of its schools stand
empty—some of them serving as storage sheds for hay.
It's only natural to
feel betrayed and disappointed upon discovering that those we admire are
flawed. But this was more than simple imperfection. Mortenson stood
accused of literary, managerial, and fiduciary sins so sweeping that they
threatened to demolish the entire edifice of his good works. Believers
like me were left to pick up the million little pieces of yet another
shattered hero. And to wonder, how could we have been so gullible?
have a profound longing for heroes—now perhaps more than ever. We need
our explorers, our sports icons, our Medal of Freedom winners, our Nobel
laureates. We need our Greatest Generation warriors, our
"Sully" Sullenbergers, our Neil Armstrongs. On some level, we
still subscribe to the myth of the man in the white hat. We yearn to
believe not only in his good deeds but in his inherent goodness as a
person. Perhaps it's something rooted in our Puritan past, but we seem to
have a monochromatic view of heroism. We have a hard time believing that
the doer of a heroic deed could have serious defects or even be rotten to
the core. Heroes are supposed to be heroic—period. We prefer to take ours
all heroes and saints are imperfect—even the greatest ones. Mother
Teresa, Mortenson's professed role model when he was growing up, was
widely criticized for the deplorable condition of her clinics—and for
accepting large sums of money from mafia dons and Third World dictators.
Martin Luther King Jr. plagiarized parts of his Ph.D. thesis and engaged
in marital infidelities. Gandhi had a decidedly weird habit of sleeping
beside naked young women to test his vow of celibacy—and, according to a
new biography out last month by Joseph Lelyveld, may have had a
homoerotic relationship with a German-Jewish architect in South Africa.
So what? Their accomplishments seem all the more heroic for their having
been complicated, multidimensional, flesh-and-blood human beings.
the most telling quote from Krakauer's piece speaks to this same
theme—the notion that Mortenson's story was allowed to blossom without
check for years because it soothed the national conscience during a
messy, intractable war. "He's a symptom of Afghanistan," a
former Mortenson colleague told Krakauer. "Things are so bad that
everybody's desperate for even one good-news story. And Greg is it."
of late last week, it remained unclear how Mortenson's organization would
weather this fast-moving storm. Mortenson himself said he was heading to
the hospital for surgery to repair a "hole in my
heart"—presumably a literal one. Until we hear from him, I prefer to
hold on to the perhaps naive belief that the final truth of these
allegations will fall somewhere shy of doing irreparable harm to his
great cause. The idea of Three
Cups of Tea remains heroic, even if its creator has gone
I, for one, still want to believe.
more of article at: http://www.newsweek.com/2011/04/24/shattered-faith.html
Hoarding Disorder Information Website:
25th Annual Debtors Anonymous
be held in Detroit, Michigan August 2011. Stay tuned for more details or
Book of The Month:
Fraud: From Trust to Betrayal... How To Protect Your Business in 7
Easy Steps by Jack L.
Hayes (Bascom Hill, 2011). This new book from legendary loss
prevention expert consultant Jack Hayes contains 200+ pages of facts,
stories, and strategies about employee theft and fraud which Mr. Hayes
relates with wisdom and wit. This is a must-read for any business owner
or anybody interested in human psychology.
The Shulman Center Comes
A reminder: The
Shulman Center offers counseling services in the metro-Detroit area, by
telephone and/or SKYPE. In certain circumstances--we may be able to come
to you. Please feel free to contact us to explore what option works best
Odyssey/Intimacy with Money Life Coaching
is with great excitement and confidence that I share about the "Intimacy
with Money" program offered by my long-time friend Tom
Lietaert, life coach and gestalt counselor, of Boulder, Colorado.
Tom works with clients in person and by phone. To learn more or
to register, please go to: http://www.sacredodyssey.com
Spending and Hoarding in The News! May 2011:
Shulman will be featured in an article on hoarding and the family in
Social Worker Today magazine.
May 4--Mr. Shulman will be
featured as a guest expert on shopping addiction, envy and greed on
Canada's Vision TV series "The Science of Sin."
June 2-5--Mr. Shulman will
be presenting on compulsive theft and spending at the 2nd Annual West
Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders in Palm Springs, California. See www.wcsad.
July 29--Mr. Shulman will be conducting a
full-day in-service on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding at The
State Bar of Michigan in Lansing, Michigan.
will be featured in an article on shoplifting addiction in Reader's
Shulman will be presenting on compulsive theft at the 24th Annual
Foundations Recovery Network's "Power, Fame & Recovery"
conference in Palm Beach, Florida.
October 1--Mr. Shulman
will be presenting an all-day seminar on compulsive theft & spending
& hoarding in the metro-Detroit area.
November 4--Mr. Shulman
will present an all-day seminar on compulsive theft & spending &
hoarding in the Chicago area through Proctor Hospital's/Illinois
Institute for Addiction and Recovery's ongoing learning program.
Mr. Shulman is assisting the Baton Rouge, Louisiana court system a
court-ordered three hour, facilitated educational program for retail
fraud offenders. The program is based on material from his book
"Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery"
Mr. Shulman created a 1-hour employee theft online course with 360
Training. Learn why people steal from their jobs, how to deter it,
prevent it, and what to do when confronted with it. See or enroll in
course at: http://theshulmancenter.360training.com
Mr. Shulman is consulting on a major motion picture tentatively called
"The Rush" in which the lead character is addicted to
shoplifting and stealing.
Mr. Shulman created an online continuing education course on compulsive
shopping and spending called "Bought Out and $pent!"
based on his book and Power Point presentation. The course, offered
through The American Psychotherapy Association, is available for purchase
by APA members and non-members. CEUs are available. He's working
on a therapist certification program in compulsive theft/spending
for the APA. See: http://www.americanpsychotherapy.com/
Mr. Shulman collaborated with the Kingman, AZ
courts with a court-ordered home-study program for retail
fraud offenders. The program is based on material from his book "Something
for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery" (2003).
Mr. Shulman is consulting with an author who's writing a novel about two
kleptomaniacs who fall in love with each other.
The Shulman Center
Daryl Shulman, JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAAC, CPC
The Shulman Center
Call (248) 358-8508 for free
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The Hand That Feeds
Out and $pent
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